Did you know that parenting is culturally bound? Parenting approaches vary across the globe and even regionally across the United States. The "right" style of parenting reflects local parents, their desires, and their priorities.
This enormous variety in parenting demonstrates the many perfectly reasonable ways to raise your kids. You're probably already doing a great job, even if it doesn't always feel that way.
Find out more about how parents raise their children around the world in Do Parents Matter?: Why Japanese Babies Sleep Soundly, Mexican Siblings Don't Fight, and American Families Should Just Relax, by Robert and Sarah Levine. Or read this interview with the authors https://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/04/books/review/do-parents-matter-robert-levine-sarah-levine.html